A year ago, Necole Bitchie announced that actress Meagan Good and her pastor/film producer hubby DeVon Franklin, were writing a relationship book together tentatively titled, ‘The Wait.’ In their novel, the couple would be telling about their decision to abstain from sex until they were married, something several celebrities have admitted to doing as well: Tamera Mowry-Housley and her husband Adam, Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon, even Jessica Simpson and Nick Lachey. Maybe the last example wasn’t the best, but in all, waiting for sex until after marriage seems to be an act that more people are beginning to catch on to. Here are a few perks to practicing celibacy until after you say the “I do’s.”
No Clouded Judgment. When you have sex before you actually get to know that person, you run the risk of sleeping with a stranger. You could wake up one day and realize that this person you’ve spent a lengthy time horizontally with is actually nowhere near the type of person you want to settle down with. Then you find yourself in a place where you’ve wasted time on a partner for the night – or nights – in your quest to find a partner for life.
Familiarity Outside Physicality. In those days, weeks and months you spend not having sex, you get to know who they are outside of the bedroom. You know more about their personality and their disposition without being clouded by what they can or can’t do for you behind closed doors. And this familiarity with who they truly are forms a connection between the two of you outside of the physical realm. That connection is what sustains your relationship when make-up sex can’t.
Stronger Bond While Having Sex. That connection also creates a bond that’s transferable when you do ultimately have sex. It’s the reason why Devon Franklin and Nick Cannon look so happy when they speak about their wives. All the love you have for the person you’ve gotten to know over that span of time creates a passion that can’t be duplicated.
Whether you’re doing it for religious reasons or just a personal preference, the wait for intimacy can be very beneficial to you and your relationship. Besides, if you can’t wait for the one you love then what’s the point of it all?
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(via Elite DC Mag)